Lou Milner - Washing Dishes Cause of Marriage Breakups

Washing Dishes Number 1 Cause of

Break-ups in Canada

an E conversation

Anonymous correspondent:

Just want to be sure I was clear on my position of guests. If invited to someone's house for dinner, the guest shouldn't have to make it and spend the entire evening in the kitchen prepping and cleaning-up--anyone can do that in his/er own home. However, being a houseguest is an entirely different horse color. When one is an over-night guest, one must pitch in and do everything a normal resident would do--make Christmas cakes, replace the host's tires, etc.

Tom:

Okay, good as far as you've taken it, but there are complications.

What about when person A invites person B to dinner because they want to sleep with them. Does person B then become a houseguest, in which case they might be required (on top of possibly sleeping with person A) to do such tasks as washing up and/or baking a Christmas cake. However, if this is indeed the case, then there is a distinct possibility that, when presented with those additional tasks, person B might decide that they don't now (and perhaps ever) want to sleep with person A, in which case they can be considered not to be a houseguest, and kazam, said houseguest tasks disappear, and the possibility of sleeping with person A may become an option once more. Cycle repeats itself, person A and person B are caught in endless sex-no-sex loop, and the evening degenerates into arguments that make the whole affair appear as if person A was married to person B. So, we've just determined underlying reason why marriage might be pursued as an option for person A, why person B gets turned off sex, and why marriage subsequently breaks down.

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Person A and person B are fictitious people of no defined sex, with or without physical and/or mental disabilities, and of no particular ethnic group, skin color, sexual orientation, etc., etc.